At some point in their lives, most people want to have a great romantic relationship with a special someone. This can be easier said than done. The truth is that many people have no idea how to choose a good partner and make mistakes which seriously affect their lives. How do you find a good partner? Here is some advice that can help you.
- Get it right from the start. It is easier to make wise choices in the beginning instead of having to break off a relationship down the line. In order to make good choices, you may want to ask for the advice of friends and family before agreeing to date a certain person. While your family and friends may not always give you good advice, you should definitely avoid someone that is not well liked by both your friends and your family.
- Lies are a deal breaker. Be very careful of someone who lies, especially if he or she does so frequently. This is a sign of someone with a definite character flaw. Of course, everyone tells little white lies now and then so this should not necessarily concern you. If you notice that your date tends to lie more than he tells the truth, you should end things sooner than later.
- Choose a partner based upon character qualities, not looks. In the movies, the hero is always handsome and his lady love is always gorgeous. They ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. But reality is not like that. Do not judge a person based upon his or her looks or you may be sorry!
- Choose someone who treats you with respect. Even if he respects you, he may not hold the doors for you. However, he won’t hit you, hurt you purposely or cheat with your friends. When he behaves badly and is confronted on his poor behavior, he should apologize and make amends. Be very cautious around people who blame you for their problems or refuse to treat you with respect.
- Remember that no one is perfect, even you. Even the best people make mistakes. Women and men who continue to make the same mistake over and over again probably are not worth your time.
- Trust your instincts. Most divorced people will admit that there were problems early on in their relationship and that they simply chose to ignore the warning signs. Don’t ignore the warning signs or your instincts. Chances are that your instincts are right.
- Be very wary of relationships where your partner is in a rush to get married or to make a commitment. This is a definite red flag. Healthy relationships take time and can not be rushed.
If you keep making poor relationship choices, you may want to get some professional counseling. A professional counselor can help you to understand your motives and how your relationships with your family can affect your adult relationships. A good counselor can help you to understand your past mistakes so that you can learn from those mistakes. He or she can also help you to make good choices in the future.
Relationships can be difficult at times, and something that you must continually work on both individually and as a couple. However, just as they can be challenging, remember that they can also be very rewarding.
No matter how bad you think your relationship is, take some salvation in knowing that love is rarely the reason that relationships crumble. Take baby steps to get you from Break Up to make up.
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