10 Simple Ways To Get Your Ex Back

Sadly, a big misunderstanding can signal the demise of a relationship. One minute, you and your significant other may be enjoying a wonderful relationship. The next moment, he may be packing his things and contacting a divorce attorney. How can you get him back?

• Understand what went wrong. You can’t fix things if you don’t understand what went wrong. You may want to make a
• st of the reasons that the relationship went horribly wrong. Then, ask yourself if the relationship is worth the time and effort to fix it. In some cases, you may realize that you are better off without your ex. On the other hand, you may realize that you really want him back. If this is the case, continue on!

   

• Remember the beginning. Think back to what attracted you to your significant other. This may give you the courage and strength you need to work on your relationship.
• Start what you stopped. Over time, you may have stopped some of the things that were important to you. Perhaps you stopped going out with friends because you wanted to spend all of your time with your significant other. Remember that your relationships can’t be healthy if you don’t take time for yourself.
• Don’t try to call your ex after the breakup. Some experts recommend keeping your distance for at least 30 days while others say only a few days. The truth is that the length of time will vary from couple to couple. At the very least, you should not talk to your ex until your anger and hurt have subsided. Here’s the first place to start when trying to save your relationship.

  Sometimes, we say things when we are hurt and angry. These things can never be taken back once they are spoken. In fact, it is the things that are said after the breakup that matter most. Your ex is already angry and upset and any comments that can be taken out of context and construed in a negative light probably will be.

• Keep it short and sweet. When you and your ex finally do meet for the first time after your breakup, keep it short and sweet. Don’t make the first meeting any more difficult than it already will be. Don’t bring up negative things that your has said and did during the relationship. Just a simple, “I’m sorry and I miss you” will be enough. Then, shift the focus towards repairing the relationship and moving on.

There will be time to discuss hurts and things that went wrong during future meetings. Instead of throwing verbal venom at your ex, you may want to journal or write down your grievances. If this doesn’t work, you may consider seeing a therapist to work out your anger in a constructive way.

Forgiveness is very important. In order to repair your relationship with your ex, you will need to forgive him for how he hurt you. In many cases, you will also need to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made too. While neither of you may be able to forget the things that were done, you can start over again and work towards a better relationship that will last a lifetime.

You may want to consider reading this article called Avoid Premature Reconcilliation When Trying to Get an Ex Back. I think that it will help.

Remember to include your thoughts and suggestions in the comments below. I’d love to hear what has work, or hasn’t worked, in your relationships.