Have you recently had a break up? Do you think that perhaps the break up is a mistake? If so, here are some things you can do to win back your ex.
Sometimes, people get angry and do things that they shouldn’t. Perhaps you and your ex had a quarrel and decided to break up. Now, you may be reconsidering your decision. You may be able to fix things and get your ex back. Your ability to get your ex back depends upon a variety of factors however.
One of the best ways to win back your ex is to give him or her some space. It sounds crazy, but sometimes it does work. Instead of bothering your ex with emails, calls, and texts, just let things calm down. You may want to send a message that simply says, “I’m sorry and I still care about you”. That is it though.
Whatever you do, don’t go sending flowers or expensive gifts. This will just annoy your ex and make you look desperate.
After a few weeks, you may want to contact your ex if you haven’t heard from her. Make sure to be polite and calm. Do not spend a long time on the phone or beg your ex to come back. This will only thwart your goal of getting back together.
Don’t drive around your ex’s house or apartment hoping for a glimpse of him or her either. This is actually a form of stalking and may actually intimidate your ex instead of convincing her to repair the relationship.
If the reason for the breakup was something minor, you have a good chance of getting your ex back. After giving your ex some time and space, she may even call you and ask to talk over things.
Some breakups happen because of very difficult or complex issues. If this is the case, it may be difficult to actually win back your ex. However, apologizing to your ex and promising to get counseling may do wonders to help the situation. Even if you do not win back your ex, counseling will probably be very helpful.
As time passes and emotions fade, you may begin to see that the breakup was actually a good thing. If this is the case, do your best to remain friendly with your ex and move forward with your life.
If you hope to get back together with your ex, it is probably best to refrain from dating other people. If you do decide to date, you should make sure to keep things friendly, but not too friendly. If your ex finds out that you have slept with someone else, she or he may not be too quick to make amends and get back together with you.
It has been said that everything happens for a reason. While breakups can be difficult, they can actually be very helpful. If you do get back together with your ex, you will hopefully have learned something positive through the breakup. If you do not get back together with your ex, you will hopefully have learned from your mistakes and will make better choices with the next partner.
No matter how bad you think your relationship is, take some salvation in knowing that love is rarely the reason that relationships crumble. Take baby steps to get you from break up to make up, and re-bond. Don’t try to take too big a step and patch things up all at once. That’s too much, too fast. Take small steps. Sometimes even small steps is too much at the current time.
In fact, many times, taking a step ‘back’ is the best course of action. Click here for our free How To Get My Ex Backmini-series newsletter and also get a copy of my book “Tips to Save Your Marriage” (free for a limited time). You’ll also get access to a video that explains the re-bonding process in more details.
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